I am a qualified IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advocate) and specialise in Domestic Abuse. I have knowledge and understanding around the effect DA has on the victim/survivor. Having worked along side a male perpetrator programme for many years I can offer support to both survivors and perpetrators of Domestic Abuse. I cannot, however, support a couple in this situation as it could potentially put the victim of DV at risk of further controlling behaviour.
The dynamics of Domestic abuse are complex and complicated. I can help you understand the cycle of abuse and the effects it has on the victim/survivor. Domestic abuse can be soul destroying and a person’s identity can be wiped out.
The UK government’s definition of domestic violence is “any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to psychological, physical, sexual, financial, emotional.” Domestic Abuse is an offence, including Coercive control.
“I feel so lucky to have had counselling from Trish. I approached her as I saw she specialised in Domestic Violence, and I felt I needed to talk to someone who could specifically help in this area. Sessions with her were exactly what I needed; she understood what I’d been through, when no one else that I knew could; she introduced me to books and resources which helped me to understand more about abuse and the personality disorder of my perpetrator; and most importantly she provided an environment in which I felt safe, could open up about what I’d been through and the post traumatic stress that I was experiencing day to day.
Trish provided options for our sessions so that I could choose the resources or techniques or topics, and always let me choose the pace of the sessions.” (Written feedback 2017)